Friday, December 31, 2010

Menunda Seks Pranikah Ternyata Bermanfaat, Lho!

original link here

Ada jaminan bagi pasangan yang menunda seks, sebelum menikah. Mereka akan meraih pernikahan yang lebih bahagia.

Itulah yang coba digambarkan American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology dengan studi mereka yang melibatkan 2.035 orang Amerika yang telah menikah dalam survei online bernama "RELATE". Salah satu pertanyaan yang paling berarti adalah "Kapan Anda terlibat secara seksual dalam hubungan ini?"

Sebuah analisis statistik menunjukkan manfaat berikut bagi mereka yang menunda seks setelah terjadinya pernikahan, dibandingkan mereka yang melakukannya di awal hubungan:

- Stabilitas hubungan 22 persen lebih tinggi

- Kepuasan hubungan 20 persen lebih tinggi

- Kualitas hubungan seks 15 persen lebih baik

- Komunikasi 2 arah yang terjalin 12 persen lebih baik

Faktanya, manfaatnya lebih besar hampir setengahnya. "Peneliti pada topik ini lebih fokus pada pengalaman individual dan bukan jangka waktu berhubungan," ungkap Dean Busby, pemimpin studi dan profesor di Brigham Young University's School of Family Life, seperti yang dilansir Health24.

"Ada begitu banyak hubungan selain seks, tapi kami menemukan bahwa mereka yang menunggu seks lebih lama, memang lebih bahagia dalam aspek seksual dalam hubungan mereka," tambah Dean.

"Saya pikir hal ini diakibatkan mereka lebih banyak berbincang dan belajar untuk menghadapi masalah yang akan timbul di depan," ujarnya.

Sosiologis Mark Regnerus dari Universitas Texas, yang tidak ikut terlibat dalam studi tersebut membaca studi dan menambahkan dengan penemuannya.

Seks yang terlalu dini

"Pasangan yang melakukan seks terlalu dini, cenderung menemukan hubungan mereka belum berkembang jika ditanyakan tentang kualitas dan kestabilannya, misalnya apakah pasangan mampu dipercaya dan diandalkan," ungkap Mark, penulis buku "Premarital Sex in America".

Karena kepercayaan agama sering kali meminta manusia untuk menunda seks, Dean dan tim menghindari pengaruh agama dalam analisis mereka.

"Meski tidak berdasarkan keagamaan, menunda membantu hubungan mencapai tingkat komunikasi yang lebih baik, dan hal ini membantu meningkatkan kepuasan hubungan jangka panjang," tutup Dean.

comment :agama tidak pernah mengajarkan hal yang salah, seperti halnya tentang seks diluar nikah alias zina. Bila awalnya baik maka akan berakhir dengan lebih baik,begitupun sebaliknya.

Thursday, December 30, 2010

bread,love and dreams (korean drama 2010)

synopsis:"Bread, Love and Dreams" tells the life of Kim Tak-Gu from the 1970's until the late 1980's as he becomes one of the most successful bakers in all of Korea.The unwanted kid in the family comes from a relationship outside marriage has to struggle to achieve his dreams and love.
.more info
the link is the original source of the synopsis article,I just want to share it with the reader aside to my personal comment.
comment:this is the drama currently aired in local television for couple of episodes, and i find this one interesting to follow,because it has a very strong plot and good actors. I wonder how it will end, need a few more weeks before that to happen.It's not quite as I expected but it was fair enough for a good guy gets a good girl.

the expendables(2010)

synopsis:An elite ready-to-die mercenaries. click here for more info.the link is the original source of the synopsis article,I just want to share it with the reader aside to my personal comment.

comment: i watched this movie yesterday, and yes its all about old school action movie with big blasts and more actions.the plot was somehow quite confusing,but it didn't matter if its about entertainment, it made you go back to the old movies of sylvester stallone, arnold scwarzenegger, etc. i think guys will enjoy this better than girls. but man, they're consisted mostly macho old men with many wrinkles. :P

Monday, December 27, 2010

The strange old lady

When i first saw her, i was amazed. At her current age, this lady has a very strong will to keep on gaining some knowledge from the school. She has this big amount of spirit and confidence to study hard although her other colleagues were more suitable to be her grandchildren. She's even older than my mom. I was very curious of her and her motivation to get through this tirelessly, so, i was kind of doing some small investigation by asking some of her classmates.

After a while, I found out what is her name and age, also a little bit information about her history.She moved 3times into different colleges, and she kept on starting all over again and again from the 1st semester,so up until now, she's still unsuccessfully manage to finish her studies after more than 7years. She lived alone,no relatives and her husband had already passed away a couple of years ago from sudden heart attack. Her age now is around 67 years old if I'm not mistaken.And yes I will not mention her name here cause it's inappropriate to do so. however, something is fishy after sometimes, the more i knew about her the more disturbing thoughts came into my mind.why? i didn't know for sure but somehow my admiration toward her slowly decreasing and i shall quit from trying to find out more about her again.

Just yesterday, i was able to watch her directly and the way she interacted with other people, i realized that this lady has a serious complicated problem due to her strange personality. How she most of the time interfered with other people's conversation, suddenly asked for doing her a favor after telling how miserable she was, so that other people took pity on her,until one of my friend gave her money to make her stop forcing her to buy something. how she impolitely wanted to be served and helped by forcing her 'friend' to do it for her. And i saw obviously that day how other people seemed annoyed very much by her attitude. it just didn't make sense for me in the beginning, how on earth she could do that at her age. i mean, its sort of wierd indeed to see such childish acts came from a lady like her. She said to my friend that she fell from motorbike twice but the doctors said nothing was wrong. I found it unbelievable, or rather make sense now after seeing her at her state.

the last strange thing was, that i completely invisible for her! how amazing,she asked all of my friend who stayed around me, meanwhile i was skipped by her the whole time!. its not that i care about such thing, i just feel strange, totally strange. well, i guess from now on i will not bother myself doing the 'research' on her again, cause it started to become useless and nothing that i can gain benefit or something positive out of it. case closed

naruto update :ch.518-522, anime fillers eps ,+other manga

Naruto chapter 518-522 :the ambush squads clash!, the tailed beast bomb, the secret behind impure 's world resurrection, the army's battle begins!, I'm already dead.
the story revolved around the war between konoha and their allies fighting akatsuki's troops in form of zombies / dead ninja that has been revived by Kabuto using the forbidden technique once used by Orochimaru when he fought the 3rd hokage. More memories of the loved ones, used to be opponent and the scene of how tobi/madara and kabuto didn't trust each other. Also it showed naruto trained with the tail beast bomb that actually similar to rasengan by only using the 9tails chakra.its getting interesting to find out :)

but the opposite situation on the anime episodes, cause it only offers more and more annoying fillers. I can't imagine until when they will go on with these fillers.

As for bleach took quite a long turn before its getting back to the root of the story.and i haven't seen rukia, my favorite character, kubo sensei, please give her back to us :(
And the last about kenichi, its also interesting where all the teachers have become fugitive and wanted by the police under the influence of yami.we'll see later what they will offer for the next chapter after new year.

Evan Almighty (2007), The Holiday(2006)

for more info click on the title Evan Almighty and The Holiday. the link is the original source of the synopsis article,I just want to share it with the reader aside to my personal comment.
Just last night i watched these two movies on local television channel. They played it in a row, first Evan Almighty(EA) and then The Holiday(tH). So, I will start will EA, which is the spin-off of Bruce Almighty starred by Jim Carrey as the prequel.
Honestly the story was quite predictable and too cliche with all the typical American comedy's humors. And for me, it looked really ridiculous and boring on the halfway to the end of the movie, why? because it was getting horrible with all the ark,animals and the God thing. On Bruce Almighty, I can pretty much understand how greedy human is, by watching Bruce with all his power (that lent to him by God-in appearance of an old man) could do whatever he wanted although it meant for other people's suffering since he selfishly used it only for his own benefit. But in EA, things were just getting even worst, and the building the ark thing, the animals,and God as a bothersome man who disturbed Evan as if there were no other job for him that he could solely concentrate on annoying Evan with His task.No wonder this movie didn't do well on the box office chart, all the joke to religion thing turned my mood down even more. maybe other audience felt somehow the same.this movie wasn't recommended from me, it will be better watching some fantasy movies such as Harry Potter or Narnia rather than this.
As for the 2nd movie, the Holiday, it was nice romantic comedy and although it was a typical American romantic comedy which would ended up with a happy ending, I'd still love it. It really showed how far the struggle of 2brokenhearted women in mending their feeling and start over with new guys. it doesn't hurt to watch if you want to, although in reality something like this would be difficult to find.

Friday, December 24, 2010

national treasure(2004) and national treasure:book of secrets(2007)

National Treasure(2004)
synopsis:  click here for more.

National Treasure: book of secret(2007)
synopsis : click here for more info. 

the link is the original source of the synopsis article,I just want to share it with the reader aside to my personal comment.

comment: i watched both of the movies on local TV, and its interesting to see how they solve the puzzle before finding the real treasure. And yea i have to admit that the 2nd part or the sequel is much more interesting than the 1st one. I wonder what they will offer for the 3rd installment later.

manga i read : royal 17, kiken junai D.N.A

title :royal 17
Released in: 2005
Author(s): Kayono
Artist(s): Kayono
Type: Manga
Genre(s): Drama, Mature, Romance, Shoujo, Smut
Status: Completed
Scanlation Status: Completed
:Since the day she was born, Rumina has had her life planned out for her. Since she's from a high-class family, she's expected to do everything perfectly and she gets no choice in anything; not her friend, make-up or even boyfriend! Fed up, Rumina runs away and goes to a fastfood joint. After she's ordered, she realizes that she hadn't brought her wallet. A handsome teen pays for her meal, but in exchange she has to go on a date with him. Insulted after he steals her first kiss, she returns home. There, she finds out that he's her new bodyguard! • Volume 1 extra : 1) Club Papillion - A dancer falls for a fashion designer at a club. He chooses her to become his model for a new brand, but will he ever think about something besides work? 2) B-men Kazoku extra - Merumo-tan Passes Through • Volume 2 extra : B-Men Kazoku extra - Merumo-tan Comes Again • Volume 3 extra : Princess Paffy and the 40 Thieves - Princess Paffy has lived a happy life with her servant and friend Klaster at her side. However, she has been commanded by her father to marry a wealthy man in one week to save the kingdom. In order to avoid marriage, Paffy decides to track down the band of thieves responsible for the country's bankruptcy and take back what they stole.
title : kiken junai D.N.A
Alternative title(s): D.N.A. Our Dangerous Pure Love, Dangerous Pure Love D.N.A., Just the Two of Us, Kiken Jun'ai D.N.A., Kiken Junai DNA
Released in: 2008
Author(s): KURUMATANI Haruko
Artist(s): KURUMATANI Haruko
Type: Manga
Genre(s): Comedy, Gender Bender, Romance, School Life, Shoujo, Smut
Status: Completed
Scanlation Status: Completed
synopsis :
She had always hated the fact that her younger brother had been cuter than her. Now, he's at her school, dressed as a girl and is a popular model for female clothing. Although it's not unknown that he is not a girl, all the boys like him. Thus, she is always rejected by her crushes. They're brother and sister but is there something deeper going on?

comment: well, the story is typical in both mangas in love story and happily ever after thing,but i still read it because i got a lot of reference for drawing lovely pose.but i warn you, these manga are not suitable for under 18 years old because some of the scene are just not appropriate.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

the successful and failed stars reunion in a movie

When the casts in a movie had successfully brought life and chemistry inside,not to mention the good plot and storyline, for sure it will become one hell of a good movie.but sometimes the 2nd attempts wouldn't bring the same result.these are the examples of the failed attempt for repeating the success story of their 1st movie. to lose a guy in ten days(2003) and fool's gold(2008)
more info on the movie click on the title. well, both movies starred by Kate Hudson and Michael McConaughey.the 1st one(how to lose..) was a good romantic movie and the story was also interesting,but the 2nd one that i've just finished watching now was a total boring movie.not entertaining at all.i was so boring until i almost couldn't afford to continue.just sucks with lack of chemistry.just sexy bodies, six packs and tanned skin.simply no other thing.

2.Speed(1994) and lake house(2006)
more info on the movie click on the title.these were also starred by the same couple, Keanu reeves and Sandra bullock. the 1st one,speed, was a huge success, even made in sequel(although it failed in box office cause keanu refused to play his role again).but the 2nd movie which was inspired by one Korean movie Il mare, wasn't doing well in the box office chart, well it wasn't a flop either just grossing way below their 1st movie.

3.the mummy(1999),the mummy returns(2001) and the mummy : tomb of the dragon emperor(2008)
more info on the movie click on the title.the 1st and 2nd was a huge success but the 3rd one for me was a failure given by the changes of role played by Rachel Weisz.the one who replaced her made me don't want to bother myself to watch,and as the setting went to Chinese history, as far as i know, no other country has a mummy other than Egypt. the last movie received negative responses from the audience. well i guess, for this one can be categorized as an exception,since the movie within the same theme and title.
and many other..

as for the example of good result and chemistry for the same pair of actors shown in this :
1. Sleepless in Seattle(1993) and You've got mail(1998)
the great examples of chemistry and great movies from Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks. although they previously starred a movie Joe versus the volcano(1990),these 2 movies were the most famous movies of them.
and many other ...need to look more reference but i feel tired so i guess enough for now :)

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Fur :an imaginary portrait of Diane Arbus (2006)

synopsis : click here for more info.the link is the original source of the synopsis article,I just want to share it with the reader aside to my personal comment.

comment : this movie was really hard to understand in the beginning but i finally got the point of it, just couldn't understand why she chose to live that way.I guess this was more like searching for her own soul and try to seek happiness in doing it,although for some normal people would be too wierd. maybe similar to eat,pray, love- leave everything behind and start over from the beginning, but for me something like that would be a pain, and it will be more like running away from the problem instead of facing it and find the solution. well, its all up to the person him/herself of what will they do about their lives .

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

2versions of Robin Hood's movies(1991 and 2010)

for the info,click on the title Robin Hood:Prince of thieves(1991) and Robin Hood(2010)

Well, after just yesterday i watched the newest version played by Russell Crowe, I must say I like it better although for the story was driven far from the original legend. But i just felt somehow bothered by the appearance of him that looked so similar with the gladiator's character he played before. I wish there was something different in him for this movie, i guessed i hoped too far. It seemed like nothing new offered by the Director,I just can't help comparing it with gladiator's movie.why? the tragic story, the zero become the national hero,the envious king and the love story. For me,personally this epic story rather quite predictable given by the way the director arranged the plot from the beginning til the end. So,the conclusion is I still love it although there are too many unknown characters that I couldn't memorize but only Robin, Marian, King John and that's it. Oh and also the man who betrayed the king,the same man who played as the main villain in Sherlock Holmes, I forgot the name of his character. Just simply enjoy it and nothing else.

As for the version played by Kevin Costner earlier, the story is rather too typical and shallow if i compare it with the newest version. this version was more to just a fairytale story of prince charming and the princess with the evil witch and the son who tried to come between them. Sweet, yes, predictable yes, a happy ending. Although the originality of the story was closer to the legend told in the history book. mind about the accent,mind about the clothes and so on, although this movie was highly criticized over the performance,the story and such,but it was huge success in the box office with the famous song from Bryan Adams.

So i like both but i like the newest version better since its deeper and better. Recommended to watch.:D:D and before I forgot there was an old movie played by Sean Connery about Robin Hood's death that similar to Romeo and here for the info. I just love Marian's words for him :
I love you. More than all you know. I love you more than children. More than fields I've planted with my hands. I love you more than morning prayers or peace or food to eat. I love you more than sunlight, more than flesh or joy, or one more day. I love you...more than God.

Thursday, December 2, 2010

it's been a while

what a cold night tonight. after a couple of minutes spending my time reading all my previous notes here(in my FB account), suddenly i have the urge to write down something,anything that could possibly came out from my mind.Actually, so many things has been happening for a few months lately, even the drastic decision that I took to steer away the direction of the original path I've been walking for more than a decade. Although i knew and understood very well nothing would stay the same for the entire of my life, hence how unpredictable life can be, still i ought to atleast give it a try, no matter how difficult it may be.

For all i know rightnow I 'm in the exact opposite situation from my old self a few years ago.things changed, people changed, situation changed to the level that sometimes rather difficult to comprehend by my tired mind.but i'm not gonna declare that i'm giving up, no way. for all those 'sweet memories' from all of my 'closest' friends, thank you for smoothly fill it in the back of my brain.I'll always remember you all.

I will do it my own way now, whatever it may come,so be it.

*back to face the mountain of tasks (*_*)!!